Wednesday, February 14, 2018

5 Ways of Writing to Express Love with Gratitude


How are you feeling on this Love Day?
As with any holiday, you may have high expectations of how this day "should" unfold. You may not feel the loving energies intended for expression and celebration today. And who hasn't been on the receiving end of feeling unloved, unwelcomed, and unappreciated? I've rented space in these unhappy places.

Flashback: On Valentine's Day at Judson, an all women's college, I painfully recall looking out the 2nd-floor window dozens of times all day. Every chance I could, I tried to spot a florist delivering roses at my Julia Barron Dorm. 

"Could that be for ME?" "Oh, those MUST be for me." The monkey mind chatter increased with every passing hour that he didn't remember me. The call, card, and flowers never arrived. Emotionally exhausted, I went to sleep feeling angry, jealous, upset, and unloved.

The next day he called to say he'd been very sick and apologized for not sending flowers; it had been his intention and I believed him.

I then resolved NEVER to expect expressions of love from an outside source. I released the illusion of rejection. This intention has since guided me through life-- though I do slip up with expectations on occasion!

If you find yourself “down in the valley” of emotions on this Love Day (or any holiday), how do you shift your energies for regaining equilibrium-- or even increase your vibration to a happier state of mind?
You’re invited to write your way up into a higher, happier vibration and...
 1)  Write an Alphabet Gratitude List
Using the alphabet, make a list of all the people who have ever liked or loved you. It's sure to fill your heart and cause some tears to flow. Be sure to include people who haven’t liked or loved you yet gifted you with lessons learned. Once your G-List is completed, it won't matter anymore if cards, calls or roses arrived -or didn't yesterday; at least, it might matter less.

2)   Write 5 Thank-You Notes
Using your Alphabet Gratitude List, choose five people to write an old-fashioned thank you note to. If they are no longer in the physical world or you don’t have an address, write them anyway! Make a copy of each one.

3)   Write a Calendar Love Letter
“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.” Include everything you love or like about yourself. Be sure to add the many differences you’ve made in your successful turns-around-the-sun. Start with February and close with December. No act or thought is too small to be included. Then self-address an envelope and give it to a friend or family member to surprise you by mailing it to you whenever they choose.
4)   Write an Always in Advance Appreciation List—An AAA List
Mentally walk through your day. Visualize how you see it unfolding: peaceful, successful, easily, happily, etc. Capture your positive emotions with AAA statements like the ones I wrote this morning:
I am always giving advance appreciation for the…
·       Engaging phone call with my new client
·       Lots of  H.U.G.S. > Happy Unexpected God Surprises
·       Divine Downloads for the outline of my new book
·       Perfect writing sisters now joining me in my Master eCourse
·       Happy, inspiring mother-daughter date with the Florida Orchestra

  5)   Write your “I am Love, Loved, Loving & Loveable Autobiography”
Fueled and inspired by the writing activities above, write this autobiography to coalesce and condense the hopefully happy emotions they produced in your body, mind and creative soul.

Keep everything you’ve written including:
the Alphabet Gratitude List; copies of the five thank you notes; Calendar Love Letter; Always in Advance Appreciation List and; your I Am Love Autobiography –all handy to re-read often or whenever you find yourself  “down in the valley” before or after the next Love Day or holiday.

Thank you in advance for liking and commenting. What idea opened your heart to take inspired action and why?

P.S. Why not give yourself the gift of self-love? Consider joining me for the Master eCourse, Create & Write Your Personal Vision Book in 7 Sacred Steps, March 20--the first day of spring--to April 20.

Copyright Lore Raymond, 2018. No portion of the blog post or information on this site may be reprinted, re-used or copied to another site without prior written permission from the author.


  1. I love that you give action steps for a very common situation particularly on a day when expectations are so high! Thank you!

    1. You're welcome, Meghan! It is a day of high expectations. I know...

  2. Favorite Husband and I have dialed back the huzzah-huzzah around most holidays -- they're more fun that way. Thanks for a lovely post.

    1. Dialing back is a gentle idea! Brava! And you're welcome, Andrea.

  3. What a beautiful list of self-loving gifts to give to the self, Lore. Thanks for sharing your story (you were so wise so young!) and your wisdom. xo

    1. Awww, I was wise around some things, Reba. Thanks for your kind words.

  4. TY Lore ~ Wonderful tips on Love and Loving for Valentine's Day!

    1. My joyance to share. xoxo Hugs, sister writer. How goes the book?

  5. Love is so very important to me. I stay in love and with love all the time, in that way I'm never disappointed because everything is pure love.
    The goddess in me honors the goddess in you. Thanks, Lore

  6. Thank you Lore for lovingly preparing all these helpful and powerful suggestions! <3

  7. Your suggestions are so so beautiful Lore! Love them...especially Advance Appreciation List—An AAA List.
    xoxo, Z~

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